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len on February 14th, 2011

I had nearly forgotten that this is a saint’s day. Rather interesting — It happens to also be my day off – one I need because the pace here has been intense this past month or so. Yesterday we spent in London, and visited Hillside Baptist church where I have some old friends and some […]

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len on January 4th, 2011

In the fall of 1980 I attended a house warming party. A friend who was on the kitchen staff at MBBC in Winnipeg invited me to her home. There I also met her roommate, Betty Friesen, a nursing student who had graduated from Winnipeg Bible College in 1978. Bettty and I spent some time together […]

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len on May 17th, 2010

But I won’t be talking about planets or horoscopes.. On the weekend I picked up a dated book with the title, “You Just Don’t Understand.” Deborah Tannen, a linguist, wrote this work on expanding her research into the different ways men and women communicate. She had written a single chapter in an earlier text on […]

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len on April 30th, 2010

In a section titled “Our Need for Relational Wholeness,” Stephen Seamands writes about the journey toward wholeness. He asks, “How do relational problems manifest?” and then quotes Stephen Stratton in his article, “Trinity, Attachment and Love” (Catalyst 29, April, 2003). Stratton relates some things that are helpfully connected: “contemporary Trinitarian theology’s understanding of personhood with […]

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len on August 17th, 2008

From The Simple Marriage Project: “Pardon me while I paint with a stereotypical brush for a moment. Most men will report that in their marriage, sex is a way to gain closer connection. While most women would state they are interested in a closer connection in order to be more interested in sex.. “Interesting though, […]

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len on February 4th, 2008

A friend is reading, “Woman, Thou Art Loosed,” by TD Jakes. I decided to cut to the chase and look for his anthropology. It’s a good idea to understand the purpose and end of a creature.. what it should look like when in perfect form.. before one attempts to fix it when broken. This book […]

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len on January 4th, 2008

Today is the 22nd anniversary of my marriage to Elizabeth Friesen. We have taken a room in a local hotel for the night. We’ll got out for dinner, then go to a clean and quiet room, have a glass of wine, and head for the hot tub. I was thinking last night about twenty two […]

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len on August 23rd, 2007

“One day Rebbe Barukh was surprised by Reb Moshe of Ludomir while he was arguing with his wife. “Don’t worry,” he said to his visitor, “It is just like the Almighty disagreeing with the Shekhina, His Divine Presence — it is all for the sake of Tikkun, it is all meant to correct creation and […]

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len on August 4th, 2007

David Fitch posts on the Church and Pomo blog.. “In the church world people still argue about the issue of women’s ordination and equal participation in the authority of the church. Complementarians .. view women in the church as determined by the NT role of husband’s headship over the wife, and Egalitarians .. point to […]

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len on July 2nd, 2007

Q. When I was in grad school and hoping to become a famous counselor like Gary Smalley, or maybe even Paul Tournier (!) we talked a lot about theories of human nature as well as therapeutic schools. It was an evangelical seminary, so naturally we were interacting with Scripture along the way. I ended up […]

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